I never cried or complained when my hair was braided or relaxed as a child. I knew a single word meant the difference between a shaved head and a hair covered one. My mother always told us, my little sister and I, that if we wanted to grow our hair, we should be willing to accept all the side effects. By side effects, she meant the pain of the burns from relaxers or the tugging and pulling when we were braided. Even at nine years old, I associated beauty- and hair- with pain. Unfortunately, due to the education system in my home country- Rwanda- I had to cut off my hair in primary four, and I was never allowed to grow it out until I graduated high school in 2016. At that time, I decided to grow my hair naturally. Despite the hype around the natural hair movement, It was not the main reason I kept my hair natural. I am a "lazy" person when it comes to hair, I considered caring for relaxed hair as "too much work". This sounds counter-intuitive, however, back then ...